ARE YOU IN  A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP?

Simply put, a toxic relationship is one that gradually erodes your sense of well-being, your self-esteem and your enthusiasm for life and then, gradually introduces bits and pieces of a damaged and deeply disturbed personality into your being to the point where you start believing that you are really no good and that if you ever leave that relationship, that you might end up alone because nobody would want you. A relationship that makes you settle for way less than you truly deserve. Or a relationship where you are the reason why the other person feels all the things described above. A relationship where its either you are being "poisoned" or one where you are the "poison".
So, are you in one? Is your current relationship adding any positive value to your life(and I dont mean financial value alone) and are you adding any value too or is it draining you? Mentally, emotionally, physically, financially? Have you given so much to that relationship to the point where you feel like you have nothing more to give? Are you in the relationship as a matter of necessity and not really because you want to be in it? Is that relationship helping you grow and are you helping the other person grow?
If you, my friend that is reading this, after an objectively introspective consideration of these questions feel that you are in a toxic relationship, then may I respectfully ask you to "GET THE HELL OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW. Whether "poisoned" or "poisoner", please get out now!
Yeah, I know that in relationships like this, its often difficult to just up and leave. I know. But you really need to sit down and define for yourself what you really want. The kind of person you want to be and the kind of person you want in your life.
So, for our Action Point this week, I suggest you sit down and write down at least 10 things that are most important to you when it comes to love and relationships. While you are at it, also write down the qualities that are most important to you in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Next week Thursday, we will look at what to do next.